Benefit Of Doubt

From his tone, voice, the "expression". She sense that, something was hide in behind.

He didn't tell the truth.

He tried to hide something.

She know that the purpose of his doing so is because of don't want to let her misunderstood. He went out with a girl for a movie. She is ok with it. This is his freedom, his personal space. As she sometimes did go out t with a guy as well. This is normal.

However, why he told her that he went with 2 other girls whereby in fact is only with a girl?

Why he didn't tell her that this Saturday he had a date with friend until she asked him?

Why he seem like stealthy when she told him that she might go to meet him at One U?

Why he behave like doing shameful thing?

This is not the first time they quarreled because of this issue.

He explained that because he don't want to cause any misunderstood in between them. In his opinion, this is not good for a guy who already attached went out with another girl alone.

In his opinion, choose to not to tell the truth is better than tell the truth as he know the girl will not happy.

She really wonder. Did he really understand her? Did he know that by not telling the truth, she will more angry and not happy? Did he know that, the girl did tell him not to tell a lie no matter who he go out with?

In guy's opinion, they think that the best way to avoid any misunderstood with his girl friend is choose not to tell the truth.

However, in girl's opinion, they think that if their boy friend didn't' tell the truth, this is call LIE, whereby the guy try to do something shameful and betray their girl friend.

Wondering.. where is the benefit of doubt in between them?

Ya it's correct that she should trust the guy. However, how can she trust him if he keep on telling the lie?

If there is no Benefit of Doubt in between the persons, regardless of whether they are friends, colleges, couple, employer-employee, it's really hard to maintain the relationship.

It's really hard for a employee to stay at that company in the long term.
It's really hard for them to maintain the friendship.

The trust, is fading.. Although, the love is there..

Life at 25's

"You are still very fresh,unpolluted by the politic,innocent"

This is the feedback I got from him and sister..

I admit that i still have a lot of things to learn..

2010 year is the year that I really learnt lot of thingsss. I learnt how to be positive, i learnt how to think mature, I know the life I want, i know ..i want to make my life different. I want to earn more money. Thus,i really give myself a try in sale line. I not sure whether I suitable in this line or not but I always believe that- never try never know.

This is a very new team. Everyone of us work very closely like a family. May be . . Because we are still new, no politic issue. . And this is the only job that I really enjoy the environment.. At least, at this moment.

Why add colleagues at facebook seem like a big deal for her? Ya I know she had a lots of working experience, expose to many different thing whereby in working life, there is no such thing called 'sincere friendship among colleagues '.

Ya I do not deny on it but why the same words come out from her and brother-in-law, i felt very uncomfortable with her words. I know have to be very smart in nowadays society. But..as brother-in-law said "Everyone need to go through it, you still really new. . Nvm, slowly you will know.. "

Ok. I got it. Just let me experience myself.

"Sis, I really wonder..how can you survive at here .. "

I also don't know why..everyday I listened to negative words. Everyday every time it seems i'm the one who always doing wrong thing and being blamed, but I just remain silent.. Whereby I think this is the best answer for her..

Can I have a peace and happy environment whereby after one day's work, no more nagging and blaming?

Sometime..i think that work further from house is the best for me. Daniel don't know the real reason behind I want to work further from kl. I just want to restart my life.

I told him I want to go sarawak.. He was a bit shock and tried to analyze for me the pro and con. Ya I did think before whatever he said. That's why I still stay back kl. When can I have my own family? But i'm not yet mature enough to have a family. This is really no answer from me..

As he said, i'm really really well-protected by family. Ya, I do..which sometime really bring some side effect for me..